John “Jay” Bonfatti, this butt’s for you, or: Sitting shiva, but with pork

My good friend Jay Bonfatti died last week of a heart attack. He was 52. Jay taught me a few things about barbecue, including Mexican barbecue in banana leaves, but never did give me the recipe for his favorite maple-mustard sauce.
I’ve been cooking pork shoulder for his party-that-isn’t-a-wake later today, thinking about Jay, and the [...]